When I got home that night, I marched up to my mother’s room and ceremoniously announced that I’d never see that Nice Guy again.“Ma,” I said, flinging my shoes across her bedroom.OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54-year-old man really wants from you? As a guy she’s been a tremendous help in terms of understanding and relating to women in the 50 age group. You also know that understanding men is a key to finally writing your own grownup love story. LM really says it best, so here is what he has to say after reading about the various types of 40 single women, called my Please thank Bobbi on my behalf.After matching on Tinder, Drew and I met for drinks.
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.If these are the qualities you are looking for in your woman, leave behind the prejudices of "gold diggers" and give us a try. Well at this point, the guy realizes that you really like him, he has you, and he’s no longer worried that he could lose you to another guy.At the root of it, the same sense of insecurity that made the guy obsessed with finding out if you like him is now scaring him into thinking that you’re going to “take his freedom away.” Generally speaking, most guys have a fear of being “trapped” in a relationship, but in this particular scenario you’re dealing with a guy who’s actions are especially dictated by avoiding unpleasant situations as a primary motivator.If you start getting on his case (“Why didn’t you call? ”, etc.) he will feel trapped and suffocated and start pulling away.I’m no slouch: tall, trim, own my own business, nice guy to a fault. “L, you are kind, decent, funny, and attractive but I just don’t feel enough “electricity” (aka infatuation) so I’m going to have to end it.”The biggest obstacle I face it is meeting this expectation of “rock me to my soul connection” fantasy man that even they can’t explain.