Nonetheless, the truth is that the older you are when you are single and dating, the more likely it will be that you will date a man who is either divorced or separated.
As many of us know, both situations can bring a unique set of challenges.
For the life of me, I cannot understand why separated and divorced people are in such a hurry to date.
We're still in touch..we'll see what happens when he's in a more stable place but he definitely needs some time to mourn, move on.
If you know you're moving out of the area in 6 months and want to have some casual fun, then fine. While the warnings from DCUM are valid, you should use them to inform your decision, not instead of making your own decision. He'd been separated almost three years, had separation agreement, and child custody and support agreements in place, filed tax returns separately for two years. I was seperated with divorce papers filed when I met my now DH.
OP, he could be the greatest guy out there, but a mature person needs time to heal, learn what went wrong, including their part, and figure out who they are. Even between two amicable parties, divorce is gut wrenching.
The questions that follow each section are questions to consider when you’re thinking about whether to continuing seeing him—especially if you have the intention of dating with the purpose of finding a life-partner.
And ultimately help you get clearer insight on whether or not this is a relationship where you want to go into deeper levels of commitment.
It definitely can work out -- it really all depends on the situation. The questions you should also be asking is whether he is emotionally ready to move on. Or someone who never learned lessons from his marriage. I'm the PP who got involved with someone separated. As a guy who went through this, I had put a lot of effort into personal counseling and couples counseling during the brief marriage.
I would say that you need to make sure that he really is separated (and his wife knows it…lol). "You seem great but your life is in flux, I get that. When you're in a more stable place, if you want to give it a try again, you have my number." If he's just in it for the sex he'll vanish when you take it off the table this way (and rightly so). I knew what I wanted, and my ex was unwilling to work on her issues.
And with that awareness you make yourself more available for long-term love with the right guy.
Raising your awareness means being clear on the facts of your relationship.